9 Things Not to Fret About on your Wedding

Today, I thought it would be nice to share with you some of the details you shouldn’t worry about on your wedding. The little things can weigh you down if you are not careful and rub you off the joy of the day. 

There are things you have little or no control over. These issues are small stuffs that will not affect your day in a big way; you should just let go and act like you never noticed at all. Enjoy your day!

• THE WEDDING FOOD – believe it or not, the food is a major reason why some people will be at your wedding! It’s irritating when I am at a wedding and I see some guests loitering around serving points, scampering for food. Now, if you have been a guest at a wedding and you were disgusted because you were not served food, I have four questions for you. Didn’t you eat before leaving home? Okay, maybe you didn’t. Why should the couple be responsible for your meal for the day? How much did you contribute to the wedding budget? Did you even drop a gift for the wedding couple? I think Nigerians (I’m sorry if I am being so harsh and direct) should change their mentality about social events. The couple invited you because they hold you in high esteem and they want you to witness how they commit their lives to one another. Dear wedding couple, do not worry yourself about guests who complain they didn’t get to eat at your wedding. Do you know my reason? Most people would eat, have some to take home and still grumble. Even if people have enough to eat and drink and take home, people will never be contented. Take it from me, you cannot satisfy human beings.
• UNKEMPT GROOMSMAN – what can you do about one of your groomsman who shows up looking dishevelled; the beard unshaved, the hair bushy? At that moment, you cannot send him to the saloon. Just ignore him. When guests in your home check out your wedding photos, they probably won’t notice that groomsman. You and your bride are the centre of attraction at your wedding, not the groomsman.
• GRANNIE’S DRESS – if your seventy-five year old grannie shows up at your wedding in a 1950 old school dress, how are you affected? Leave mama alone to exhibit the 50’s fashion style, after all, who would even notice. Be happy to have her there. How many people even have their parents alive at their wedding, not to make mention of grandparents. C’mon! Be thankful.
• BRIDESMAIDS’ HAIRDO – after compelling your bridesmaids to wear dresses of the same style and fabric, you didn’t think you should give them the liberty to showcase their own individual personality by choosing hairstyles they love. If your bridesmaids show up with different or crazy hairdos, ignore them. Please, do not let some girls’ hair ruin your happiness. Their look cannot be so bad that your wedding photos will be affected. And I am sure your guests would leave your wedding without the memory of what any of the bridesmaids looked like. Trust me!
• FAMILY COMBO PHOTOS – it’s a great idea that you handed your photographer the list of must-take shots. Family photos are very important, especially at events; they are a good memory. Quite unfortunate, you may not be able to have some people all together in your photos at once. Why should you fret because your long-lost second cousin and your soon-to-be forgotten aunt didn’t appear in your extended family group photos? Having family group photos can be impossible. You can give a trusted relative your personal digital camera to take candid shots of guests, especially family.
• LEFT OVER FOOD – do you know some people don’t have access to good meals in their homes? Such annoying guests would show up at your wedding and tell the server they want this, they don’t eat that! Can you beat that? Food would always waste; there is little you can do about it. To maximize the wastage, you can instruct your caterer to give the food to beggars on the street, or someone can take it home to his/her dog. However, I am sure the destitute would be around to take the left over away. You need not worry.
• DRAMA – you need not worry about bridesmaids who aren’t getting along with each other. How about distant relatives who are at logger heads and chose your wedding to settle scores? Put an older neutral person in charge to sort things out between them.
• THE WEATHER – what can you do about rain falling on your wedding? Okay, maybe you should have consulted the rain makers earlier. Seriously, it’s natural for rain to fall. You should have a backup plan especially if you are using an outdoor site. On a lighter mood, why not get in the rain with your groom and have a passionate kiss! It is fun and romantic, you know?
• GUESTS NO-SHOWS – is there a seemingly important friend you invited who didn’t show up? Trust me; he probably has a good reason, or excuse depending on how you see things, why he isn’t present. Learn to give excuses for people; give them the benefit of doubt. By the way, aren’t there several other important guests at your wedding? Mingle with the ones present.