Bridesmaids Behaving Badly

Behind every bride is a group of ladies – the bridesmaids. Well, not all brides have bridesmaids. Some brides will make do with the maid of honour and the little bride. Bridesmaids are somewhat important to the ‘success’ of your wedding. ‘Success’ in quote, because you can do without them. It is not that they matter so much that you cannot do without them but they add beauty and colour to the wedding. 
Choosing who you want to be part of the wedding party might not be such an easy task. For instance, if you have come of age and all your girlfriends are already married, choosing bridesmaids may be a challenge.

However, the responsibilities you want your maids to shoulder and the purposes of bridesmaids at weddings would affect your choice. A girlfriend who hates weddings, who doesn’t believe in marriage or doesn’t agree with your choice of man might not qualify to be your bridesmaid. Here are some behaviors or attitudes bridesmaids can put up and how to deal with such:

• Bridesmaid says ‘no’ to a dress: though it is your wedding, you have to reach a compromise. If you want them to look good, you have to care about their self confidence too. Bridesmaids should wear what they are comfortable in. The bride can choose the colour while the bridesmaids choose the style, fabric or designer. Give them the liberty to choose shoe designs while they all appear in the same colour of shoe.
• Bridesmaid going AWOL: is she absent for dress fittings, shopping and vendor meetings? This is not good enough since she is meant to help out and relieve stress during planning. It is advisable to talk things over with her. Find out what has been going on in her personal life.  If after the talks things do not change, maybe she never wanted the position in the first instance.
• Bridesmaid not meeting up with expenses: is she not paying up on time for the dress or shoes? You should know that fingers are not equal. If the dress comes with a high price tag, choose a dress they all can afford. They do not have to go rob a bank in order to appear in your wedding party. If you however want them to wear a particular dress which they cannot afford, consider paying half the price to relieve their pockets.
• Bridesmaid is green with envy – is she spreading rumors about your FH? Is she turning one bridesmaid against another? Such a bridesmaid is dangerous because where there is envy, anything goes. Let her realize what damage she can cause with such behavior. She should be happy for you and concentrate on making your day work out fine. Assure her when her time comes, you would reciprocate a kind gesture.
• Bridesmaid does not like your FH: does she think marrying her elder brother would have been a better choice? For whatever reason, this bridesmaid doesn’t just like your groom. You have little to worry about. Do not be confrontational. Explain to her that you have made the right choice and you are ready to live with the consequences either good or bad. Her business now is working towards the success of the wedding.

Did you have issues with any of your bridesmaids while planning your wedding? Are there issues currently? Share your story with others.
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